[Mom Life isn't easy on a normal day, so what do you do on a bad mom day? Here are 5 actionable tips for surviving the tough days as a mom.]
As I sat there in the glider nursing, my sweet baby with my two little ones playing in the next room, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I had been holding it all in for so long. I found myself rushing from one thing to the next, taking care of everyone I was in over my head and this oncoming wave of emotion felt like it was going to swallow me whole.
Calling it a rough day would be an understatement.
I felt unsteady.
Yes, I had done the new mom thing before, but it still felt hard. I was sleep-deprived and emotionally exhausted.
As I sat there with my daughter, I could feel the wave of emotion rushing forward and there was no stopping it.
Hot salty tears began to stream down my cheeks, so I began to lean in and allow the tears to come.
I felt a sweet sense of relief.
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Tips for Loving Yourself Through The Rough Days
Being a mom is certainly not for the faint of heart.
If you are a mom and you know the ups and downs that come with mom life, whether you've had financial hardships, health challenges, or just overwhelmed by the never-ending responsibilities of being a mom, you are not alone.
Let's get into the five things you can do to survive the tough days as a mom.
1 – Breathe
The first tip is to breathe.
Your breath is with you. Everywhere you go. It's a powerful tool to help bring you back to the present moment.
Let's take a few deep breaths together.
Breathe in through your nose.
Allow your belly to fill with air, and as you breathe out, allow your shoulders to relax down, away from your ears.
Breathe in, and as you breathe out, allow your worries to wash away with your out-breath.
Know that in this moment, you are okay, Mama.
2 – Ask Yourself This One Important Question
The second tip is to ask this one important question.
“How is this working for me? “
Albert Einstein once said “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”
Looking for the wisdom and the challenges we face can help us lower our resistance to what is even on a bad mom day.
Resistance to life makes a challenging situation or event even more difficult.
It's like choosing to row your boat upstream instead of going with the flow.
3 – Choose a Mantra
Choose a mantra or positive affirmation you can use, especially on the tough days.
Some great mantras to use are things like:
“I am enough.”
“Love never fails.”
Simple reminders like these can help bring you back into balance and help you remember your truth.
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4 – Lean Into the Tough Days
It's okay to have a bad mom day. Everyone has rough days.
Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Our feelings are meant to be felt. They have messages for us.
Once those messages have been heard and seen and felt they are able to be released, this can be challenging because some feelings can be quite uncomfortable.
Letting yourself cry is a beautiful way to feel and release your emotions.
That day I found myself sobbing and rocking my baby. I was allowing myself to finally feel everything that had built up to that moment.
When the tears stopped coming, I felt lighter.
My situation had not changed. I was no longer pushing against life. I wasn't trying to row upstream.
I was embracing my present, leaning into the discomfort and listening to the messages.
Tears can be cleansing. Allow them to flow. Mama.
5 – Do Something Just for YOU
What is one small thing that you can do for yourself today that would make you feel loved and cherished?
If doing something just for you feel foreign know that that is okay.
Just start small, Mama.
Maybe make yourself a cup of tea or put on a song that you love and allow yourself to just get lost in the music.
It doesn't have to be anything extravagant. Little gestures of kindness towards yourself will help you feel loved and nourish your soul.
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Bad Mom Days Don't Mean You are a Bad Mom
Everyone has tough days.
One thing I know for sure it that there is light on the other side.
Following the tips above and giving yourself grace are the best ways to love yourself through the rough days.
You are enough, just as you are mama even on the tough days.
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