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Today, I chat with Robin Clare about how to let go of what isn’t’ serving you and what it means to truly love yourself and how self love can help you heal and live a joyous life!
If you are ready to be free from suffering and live a joyous life this episode is for you.
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Catherine Wilde
Hi, Beautiful Mama. Welcome to the Soul Care Mom Podcast.
I’m Catherine Wilde of soulcaremom.com. I’m a mom of three amazing kids. I’m a Soul Care Mom Coach and yoga and meditation teacher. I have helped hundreds of women, and I’m here to help you feel calm and find your unshakable confidence as a mom. Think of this as a lunch date with a girlfriend. Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. It’s time to get honest and vulnerable and shift the traditional mindset around motherhood.
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Catherine Wilde
Hi, Robin. Thanks so much for joining me.
Robin Clare
Catherine, thank you so much for having me. I’m really excited to be here.
Catherine Wilde
Yes, I’m so happy to talk with you today, and I want to dive into the wisdom of your book, Feast and Famine, Healing Addiction with Grace. But first, I’d love to hear more about you and your journey.
Robin Clare
Sure. So I spent 25 years in corporate America as a working mom. And when I think back on that time, you know, I went in came into the workforce in the 80s. And it was just really, really an interesting time for women to come into the workforce. We really had to fight for everything that we that we got then. And so I spent that time and I was a corporate warrior, but at the same time, I was also a spiritual warrior.
Robin Clare
On the weekends, I would do things. One year, about 22 years into that time period, I stood on my deck every night for a year asking the divine, how could I be of greater service to mankind? And what I didn’t know at the time is that I was committing to a life of divine service. And so finally I came out, I had a business plan, and I was an event producer within the spiritual realm.
Robin Clare
And then quite a few years in, I heard. What about you? You’re the teacher. You’re the author, you know, you’re the one that has a message. And so I decided to follow my heart and become a spiritual author and a teacher, spiritual teacher, coach, life coach, writing coach, all these wonderful things. But through the whole thing, I was actually in addiction.
Robin Clare
And. I couldn’t get out of it, it was 40 years long, my addiction, I had it, I had the pattern. That trauma pattern started when I was seven years old, when my mom put me on a diet at seven and it just followed me through my life and I became addicted. I was addicted to obsessive food, compulsive disorder and bulimia. And the only way that I could really heal was to accept that what I was really addicted to was my own suffering.
And that I was choosing food as a way to feel better about my suffering and then choosing bulimia as a way to purge my pain. And it was true, a tremendous amount of healing with my team, both on the Earth and etheric that I was able to really come into a place of recovery. And in fact, my recovery, my body started to shut down on me from the bulimia. I always say I felt like I was going to I was just about to pop a gasket.
Robin Clare
And so my grandmother came through in a reading and said, if you don’t stop, Robin, you’re going to die. And so I was basically scared straight from the bulimia. And I was guided to write this book, Feast and Famine, Healing, Addiction with Grace. And it’s a spiritual path to healing addiction. And it’s beautiful. And it tells my story. And it’s it’s my cousin told me it’s like Spirituality 101. She thought, I’m never going to be able to read this.
Robin Clare
Robin knows so much more than me. And but that’s how I wrote it. I didn’t want if people were not strongly on their spiritual path, I didn’t want it to be a detriment to anyone that that needed to hear this. And so I wrote it. In fact, I was talking to a friend who read it and she goes. Now, finally, because this is my third book, she said finally, this is Robin Clare, she said the first two books were good spiritual books, but they weren’t me.
Robin Clare
They weren’t about my journey. And I said, well, that’s because I was an addiction. When I wrote the first two, I almost felt fraudulent writing the first two books. And I did write Feast and Famine in Addiction the first time. And my ending to the book was, well, I hope these teachings work for you. They didn’t work for me, have a nice life. And I was like, OK, that cannot be the ending of my book.
So I put it down until I was clearly and securely in recovery. ,Which meant that I had to do a lot of healing work. I had to dig deep, find those trauma patterns inside of me, and relieve my suffering. Right? by addressing these patterns and looking at them and understanding them and understanding the roles that the significant people in our lives have. For example, what I have learned in my spiritual path is that our soul is guiding us in this lifetime.
It’s why I like the name of your podcast. Our soul is leading the way. And so soul was leading the way, and so there was nothing I could have done differently in my life because I had to get to a point where I was ready to write the book. But I also came to understand that we actually choose our parents. And on the soul level. That they come and they play these roles in our life that bring us a lot of strife, perhaps, and joy, too.
Robin Clare
Until we’re ready to heal the lessons that they brought to us on a soul level. And then once we understand that we can come into acceptance of our relationship with our parents. And my mom came into this world to give a Tony Award performance in regards to my eating disorder. And finally, after I was in recovery, I had to tell her, I’m like, “Mom, the play is closed. I’m like, we’re not doing this anymore.”
I said, I understand. I’m not asking you to change your in your 80s then. Right? I’m just telling you that we don’t have to do this dance anymore. And so, you know, I had to heal that. But she was great. She was such a good act for her role. She played it wonderfully. And I’m not even angry with her or disappointed or anything because that’s what I chose.
Robin Clare
So I would say to your listeners, you know, we have this soul journey, the soul’s destiny that we’re trying to accomplish. We do pick the players who are coming into our lives in this lifetime to help us to either stoke the fire or help us to put the fire out, whatever their role is. Right. And they’re here. And the more the faster we can recognize who they are and what their role is, the less suffering that will do.
Robin Clare
So being able to address my suffering, my trauma patterns, I was able to really bring myself really squarely into recovery. And so I would say to your listeners, it’s not just a spiritual path, it’s also a traditional path if you’re struggling with any form of substance or vice addiction, go for the traditional help. But I would also recommend reading feast and famine so that they can understand more about the suffering side because the suffering is the true problem.
Robin Clare
Most of the other programs are only dealing with the symptoms. And so, yeah, so that’s feast and famine, I’m really excited about it. I knew it would be not an easy book to write and it and I had to dig deep and be willing to put myself out there. But I think I had tremendous healing in that book. And so what I do in my private practice, which I love, is to help other people who have a really amazing story like that, to write it.
Robin Clare
As a life coach and a riding coach, because I just feel that we these crazy stories that we lived are not for our own entertainment. Right? they are to help others to heal. And so that’s how I work with my clients, is to help them put pen to paper or or hands to computer, to get their story out.
Catherine Wilde
That’s so beautiful. Yes. And I love it’s beautiful to me that you took your journey and you lovingly poured it into the book to help others to heal through your story. And I am I’m really drawn to quotes and I love that you included Marianne Williamson’s quote in your book. Do you mind if I read it here?
Robin Clare
Oh, yes please.
The Power of Self Love
Catherine Wilde
It’s such a powerful one it says: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
And I feel like that is what your book is bringing to the world too. Its helping. Everyone to shine in their own right, in their own way, by I seeing you shine.
I love the purpose for your writing the book was to help people come back to the truth of who they are and learn to love themselves again.
Robin Clare
Yes, and that that’s so if we look at Marion’s quote, what typically happens and I can use myself as an example here. My trauma pattern was around humiliation. I have been humiliated 20 something times in my life. Big humiliations, like totally embarrassing. And so part of why I did the bulimia. It was a form of self humiliation.
Because if I could if I humiliated myself in the bathroom because every time I would throw up, I would look in the mirror and roll my eyes like like what is the matter with you, you loser type of thing.
Right? And so that was a form of self-humiliation. But it wasn’t until that I could heal this pattern of humiliation that I could actually come on shows like this. Right? So my humiliation that or the idea that I would continue to be humiliated, is what Gay Hendrix calls an upper limit belief. So I had this up. So I have my zone of brilliance. Right. Which is I’m a teacher. I’m a coach, a wonderful author, mom, daughter.
But there’s a zone of brilliance that we really want to live in and in between. OK, well, I remember the book is called The Big Leap, his book. But so in between that zone of brilliance and the zone of Genius is an upper limit belief that stops you. Right, and it’s in that upper limit belief is the trauma pattern.
Robin Clare
And so once you can remove that. Whatever that is in your life, I’m not good enough what you know, whatever it is, if I do this, if I do this, I’m going to the poorhouse.
If I do this, I will be abandoned. People have a fear of abandonment, of being smothered, all these different things that these patterns, these trauma patterns. And once you remove those, then you can safely go to your zone of brilliance and really be the light that Marianne is talking about. But we all have that. It’s like you are walking down the road of your life.
Robin Clare
Right. Really adding value as a mom as a working mom, as a daughter, as a wife. And you want to get somewhere further. You’ve got to look at what could potentially be blocking the way. So I always look at it as a path with a boulder in it. Right. You could go over the boulder, you could go around it, but you’re still got that boulder there, right?
So I think the key is, is to look at it, do some wonderful healing work with either a therapist or maybe even an energy healer that does inner child work and dissolve that boulder so that you can proudly just walk straight ahead.
And so that’s what I think she’s saying there, too.
And I love in the context of the book that the people who are going to be most drawn to this book are people that are on the spiritual path. And can recognize that they’re trying so hard to have this wonderful spiritual journey right to live heaven on earth, all the things that we say.
But when you’re in addiction, when you’re when you’re an addiction to suffering. It’s really hard to reach the pinnacle of your spiritual success. And I’m hoping that this book allows people to see that there are some simple solutions to that.
Simple in understanding. Not simple.
Catherine Wilde
Not always easy to do.
Robin Clare
Never. That’s what I always say.
Spirituality is so simple and it’s so hard at the same time. Right? So that’s what I’m working on. And I just want I want to share two more things so we know you’re suffering. Right.
One of the keys to getting out of suffering is to surrender. And that’s a really big spiritual concept. And people what the divine means by surrender is they need to know that you’re really, really very, very, very serious about getting out of addiction.
First, your advice or your substance and advice can be watching Netflix for all day long. That’s a vice right is and have to be the ones where, you know, alcohol or drugs or cigarettes.
Robin Clare
It could be. How much are you on social media? Right. But if you’re really committed, really in surrender, then the grace will arrive that will bring you the resources. It’s almost like simultaneous if you’re in surrender. The universe is like, yes, she’s in surrender.
Catherine Wilde
There are always opportunities for you. But you have to be open to it.
Robin Clare
Well, you have to be in alignment with your own your own best. Good. Right? i mean, in the teachings of Abraham Hicks, which is I love them. They always say that you are your only obstacle in your path to abundance. You know, the universe has got all lined up.
And then you’re like, oh, do I deserve this? I don’t know. Instead of like, I totally deserve this and wonderful things are coming my way. In fact, I can already see them. I see me having these wonderful things. But instead, now we’re like, oh, I don’t know, do I deserve those?
The universe is like, oh, I really wanted to give her that. I guess we’ll just have to wait and see. So, you know, and the same so the same thing with grace.
In order for Grace to truly arrive, you’ve got to be really committed to surrendering. What you’re suffering about and the surrendering the vice.
And that comes through help getting the help that you need, traditional help, and hopefully through really saying committed to your spiritual path.
Catherine Wilde
Yes, so in the past, if I had heard, like I’m the obstacle standing in my own path, I would have been hard on myself and like, oh, why won’t I get out of my own way?
But that’s the opposite of self love. And one of the passages in your book that really resonated with me was if I can fill myself up with healthy food and loving thoughts about my life, then my light will shine out to all of those in need. I heal others by sharing my light.
Catherine Wilde
And so I love to dive deeper into self-love and talk more about why self-love is so important in the healing process versus something more rigid.
Robin Clare
Yeah, well, because. So we’re born into self-love, right. And who doesn’t love babies? I mean, they’re so innocent and beautiful and they’re so loving. Right. And then maybe we have parents or siblings or teachers or friends that are not nice to us in a variety of ways.
We don’t have to get into those and we start moving towards self-loathing and from self-loathing. We get we have struggles. And if we don’t heal the struggles and most people don’t I mean, most kids are not in therapy. Most teens are not in therapy.
That struggle turns to suffering. And the way out of suffering is. And then, of course, from suffering, we go to addictive behaviors. Right? So the way to self love is through surrender.
Because once you’re in surrender and you’re in recovery, then you’re able to welcome in the grace. And when you start really welcoming in grace, it’s not just how do I get how do I stay healthy?
Robin Clare
It’s like all these miracles start happening in front of your eyes. Right? you start seeing things like even last week I was riding my bike and I had agreed to start my fourth book. All of a sudden there’s like all these animals kept crossing in front of my bike. A bunny and then a squirrel and then birds and then a turtle.
I’m like, keep moving turtle. Like I just I’m like and I know that was the divine saying to me, thank you. We appreciate what you’re going to do. And here’s some ways to say thank you to you.
And so that’s what I believe. I believe that when you return to self-love through a cooperative way of living. What I might call wholeness, which will read in the book.
When you’re looking at your mind, body, spirit, and emotion and honoring all four at the same time, which is a big commitment, right? we seem to slack off on one versus the other. But when you’re in wholeness, congruence, then you are in self-love. Right?
And so it takes a while because you’re there’s nothing about your life that you’re not being respectful of. And I believe that that’s what self-love is, is when you can honor yourself, and that’s why I’m saying that you have to, but you have to honor mind, body, spirit and emotion.
And you don’t have to be fanatic about it. But you just have to say, what am I doing? I actually on my personal and my professional, one big giant to do list. But on my personal To-Do list, I have categories. Mind, body, spirit and emotion.
And I have something going all the time. What am I doing? What am I listening to? How am I eating? Am I exercising every day? Right. Am I going for to my own therapist to help deal with emotions that come up? In day to day life, and so I really believe that that’s the key to returning to self-love.
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Catherine Wilde
That’s so beautiful and I definitely agree that we’re all born completely worthy and whole and enough and deserving of love, and we know that. And then along the path, as you said, we kind of lose our way and it’s our work to get back to that. I think in our physical form to find that self love again.
Robin Clare
Yes. For me, the meaning of life is to recognize that we are the divine here on the earth, which would mean that we would be in total self-love because there’s nothing other than love in the divine realm. Right?
And so there is no suffering there. So if you were really, truly living heaven on earth. You wouldn’t be suffering now, does that mean that pain, there’s no pain, of course pain is inevitable, you know, and so in when you’re trying to live heaven on earth, suffering no longer is an option.
Robin Clare
Before that, it was an option. But if you’re trying to live heaven on earth and truly living according to your soul’s desires, then there’s no place for suffering. There will be pain and regret and different things. But what will happen is. The more you recognize that, in your connection to your soul and your connection to your divinity, it’s almost like you become the observer of your life. But people are still going to say the most jerky things to you, right?
Or do things. We’re going to hear things on the news that are just so incredibly incredible that we opened up a word for what’s going on in our country. Right?
But as the observer, you stay balanced and centered and grounded, you know, just like you would as a good parent. Right. Kids are going crazy all around you. You know, it doesn’t help to get into the fray with them.
Robin Clare
That does not calm them down for one second. That just makes them like, oh, mom’s losing it, too. So the more you calm down I used when my kids were little, if they were freaking out, I would get down exactly eye level to them and I would whisper.
What what’s the matter? I can’t hear you, Mommy. I’m like, well, if you would stop yelling, you might be able to hear me. And then finally they’re like, Oh well. And they’re like, calm. Right? And I’ll be like, what’s the matter? What can I do for you? Still whispering Right. And then they would tell me what the problem is and then it would be dissolved.
But if I would be like, what is the problem? Right. More screaming, right?
Catherine Wilde
Yes.
Robin Clare
So I think it’s the same thing for our own spiritual path that we have to be the one that is whispering. Right. And looking at ourselves and saying, wow, that’s kind of crazy. How am I going to react to that?
Catherine Wilde
Yeah, right. You get to decide what vibration you want to be on.
Robin Clare
And you know, there are moments I’m not saying I’m perfect, believe me. Ask my husband, but I try more often than not. To look at what is going on around me and recognize that he is a mirror to me, right of what is what whatever he’s doing as my partner, there’s something going on that I need to look at myself. And that could be a whole nother podcast. Mirrors, right? Because people do they mirror to us what we need to learn because if we didn’t need to learn what they’re putting out.
Robin Clare
They’d never show up in our field, right?
Catherine Wilde
Yes, and I think kids are so good at that. Helping you grow.
Robin Clare
Oh, yeah. I mean, my goodness.
Catherine Wilde
I would love to know. So how has your journey how did your journey affect you were the way you mothered your children?
Robin Clare
Well, I think it’s interesting. I started my journey. My daughter was going into high school and my son was in elementary school. And my favorite story is the weekend that I quit my corporate job, my daughter came in on Friday and said, what if I need six pairs of pants at once? And I said, well, if you need six pairs of pants at once, then I actually did something wrong raising you.
And then on Monday morning before she got on the bus, she said to me, So does this mean that every day after school, Mom, you’re going to be home I go that’s exactly what it means.
Robin Clare
And she goes, “Oh, that’s awesome.” And then she went off to school. And then my son was really raised on it. Right.
We’ve had so many conversations. And one day he was walking in front of me with a friend of his and his friend said to him, Hey, Garrett, I bet I know word that you don’t know. He said, “I bet you don’t know what prana means.”
Which means lifeforce. And Garrett said, “Are you kidding? Do you not know who my mother is?”
Of course, I know what that word is. And so I find with Garrett, oh, my gosh, he’s so wise. And Gabby, too.
Robin Clare
I mean, they’re both spiritual beings and they’re and they’re being they’ve taken that energy and really brought it into being successful young adults in the workplace. And it’s so wonderful to see that and in their relationships.
And they’ll remind me, especially on the Abraham teachings, boy, if I’m saying something that is not in the right language, they’ll be like, “Do you think that’s good, Abraham language, mom?”
Robin Clare
I’m like, “probably not.” Thank you for telling me. But they got it. They definitely have it.
And it’s exciting. And I think I think their generation and the generation, maybe your children because we’re probably like a kids generation apart.
Robin Clare
I think that if we can hold on to the spiritual concepts and know that we are in a time of tremendous change. There’s a spiritual evolution going on underneath all of this chaos.
A raising of the vibration of the planet, of what is acceptable and what is not. And if you think about it, even in your if you compare what’s going on in the world to your own spiritual journey, you had to also make that decision right.
How to Love Yourself Through the Messy Middle
Robin Clare
What was acceptable and what is not. And a wise manager I had in my corporate days always said to me, “change in the middle feels like chaos”.
And so we’re in complete chaos here. Right. And so we just have to know that there’s change that’s coming. I think that people could have you know, people may have taken advantage of this time to to be very productive to renew their relationships with their kids, really get to know them. And for me it happened too because my adult kids moved home. So I was like, well this is really interesting.
Robin Clare
Right, but I loved it. I loved it because I never thought I would have that kind of time with them again, like I did. So for all you young moms out there, really look at the blessing of time with your kids. You know, even though it seems completely overwhelming.
Intuitive Eating as a Self Love Practice
Catherine Wilde
I would like to talk a little bit more about food. So food was your addiction, and you mentioned in your book that food is everywhere and it’s necessary to live, so it’s seen as more socially acceptable to overindulge, something like food.
Robin Clare
Always overindulge, right?
And so for me, it became. A good and a bad association with food, so if I ate a healthy breakfast, like the more healthier I ate, the less chance I would have of obsessively eating or purging. Right. Because you know what? There’s no point to it right at that point because I’m eating healthy. But as soon as I thought I was bad, like if I had a bad thing for lunch, whatever bad is pizza or whatever, whatever it is to people, then it was like an excuse for me to eat the rest of the day.
Robin Clare
And then and then my mind would go crazy with I just overeat so crazy I need to get rid of this, are also going to gain weight. And one of the talk on a man’s podcast yesterday, I was saying bulimia is not a way to lose weight. In fact, your body goes into starvation mode because it never knows what you’re going to keep. And so it holds on to every calorie that it can.
And in fact, most people who are bulimic are heavier than they should be because their body is saying and their body saying, I don’t know, is there more food coming?
Robin Clare
Is she going to let go that food? What are we doing? Maybe we’ll just hold on to the calories. Maybe we need to store it as fat just so we can survive. I’m talking about my body. So what I’ve noticed is that since I’m in recovery for 18 months, since this time last year, naturally, I just lost ten pounds because my body is saying, oh, look. Food, we get to keep all this good food right and healthy food, and I’m eating much healthier and not obsessively.
Robin Clare
For example, if I want one cookie, I have a cookie, not 10, because my mind’s racing, too, that maybe I can purge.
So it was really behavioral, right? It became like, am I good or my bad? And I know a lot of women relate to that. There’s so much stress from society to look a certain way. But I would really recommend that people just feel. Try to eat as healthy as they can. Think of their body, especially your Soul Moms, think of your body as the temple that your divine resides in.
Robin Clare
If we are each a divine spark of God. What is that divine thinking about your temple? And be that temple, be the representative of the divine of God, of of your soul, you know, and your temple is part of that, right?
Robin Clare
Absolutely. Be as healthy as you can. Not obsessively healthy, but as healthy as you can so that you can be of service wherever you are.
Catherine Wilde
Yes. That is beautifully put. Yes. And your body is definitely a temple.And just is that was something for me. You know, when my daughter was born, we kind of went on a went on like, what do I feed her? And a healthy journey. And but then I became obsessive about it too, you know, and finding the balance in that it’s OK to enjoy, you know, things in life and also, you know, treat yourself well, but actually be present when you’re eating the cookie or the ice cream. And actually enjoy it.
Yeah. And you can and you can you can have that cookie. Right. And really, I had a mindfulness eating coach and I loved what she said to me.
She said, when you’re trying to decide which foods to eat, she said, you should always to say, look at the food and say, will this food make me feel better when I’m done eating it or will it make me feel worse? And we know that food is vibration? And so by eating something, will you feel better? Like after you’re done, will you be like, oh my God, I can’t believe I just ate that.
It was so awesome. I feel wonderful. Or will you be like, I can’t believe I just ate that, like what was wrong with me? Why did I need three servings of that. Right?
Robin Clare
Because you’re going to feel good or bad, right. There’s those words again, good or bad, you’re going to feel good about what you ate or or not good about what you ate. Right. So if you look at the food and just say, do I really want this, is it going to make me feel better? And so that and so sometimes I’ll do that with the cookie.
And I’m like, yeah, I really want that cookie. I’m having it. And I’m declaring now that I’m not going to feel bad about it when I’m done because I’m going to I use my fitness pal to track my calories. And so I know how many I can have in a day. You know, and and that’s just what I’m choosing, right? I love that for and for the reason that you’re it’s asking you to pause before you reach for food, because for me, I do emotional eating.
Catherine Wilde
I find myself reaching for some chocolate or something and not mindfully doing it. And it usually has to do with there’s an uncomfortable emotion that I don’t want to deal with or a stressful situation. And so I am instead of, you know, lovingly looking at what’s going on for me, I reach for food. And I love that because it helps me to pause before, you know, even if you actually want that thing for pleasure or are you avoiding something or is it nourishing you?
How to Find Balance with a Social Media Detox
Catherine Wilde
I would love to talk about, you mentioned social media earlier, and that’s definitely something I work with my moms because it’s such a big part of our lives these days. And we connect with people, loved ones, family all over the world. And it’s a beautiful way to connect, but it also can turn into a sort of an addiction. And so we talk about being present when you engage in social media and being aware of your thoughts and just being more purposeful when you do choose to be on social media, but also doing sometimes doing the digital sort of detox like similar to like a sugar detox where, you know?
You can remove yourself from sugar and it’s something that takes up your mental space and your just space in your life and you find things that bring you joy instead. But it is such a big part of our lives. Do you have any tips for just balance in social media?
Robin Clare
It is. I think that you really need to manage how you are on social media, because I believe that’s just a new added level of stress in our lives. If you’re if you don’t stay balanced and honestly, balance and being centered is the key to life. Right? And so see how you are on social media. And don’t keep your phone by your bed, you know, put it across the on the dresser or something, because very easy to wake up at 3:00 in the morning or you’ve just fed the baby or something and then you’re like, oh, I’ll just check my messages.
Why?
Who are you writing back?
Right? And then you start reading articles and then all of a sudden it’s an hour and a half and you’ve missed an hour and a half of sleep.
Robin Clare
This is what I do sometimes. So I try to keep my phone as far away from me as possible so I don’t start reading in the middle of the night. And so I would just say it is addictive. And we have to look at that. You know, where are we not finding our own personal value, right? That we’re looking for that value, that that reinforced value from others?
Robin Clare
Share because you want to share because you’re proud of things. aAnd if you want to share what the sad things know, that that’s the beauty of I think social media is that if you need prayers. Oh, my God, it’s so amazing. Right? It’s that collective prayer process. People are just right there. So, you know, but try not to go one extreme or the other. It just knocks you out of alignment. And then it’s harder to be soul-based.
Catherine Wilde
Theose are beautiful tips, Thank you.
Robin Clare
You’re welcome.
Catherine Wilde
And so when I work with my Mom on, and you talked about this already a little bit, they’re creating like creating a self care practice that does help you bring balance to all the areas of your life. I love to know more about what you love to do for self care.
Robin Clare
Yes. So for exercise, I love to ride my bike and/or walk my dog. It seems like I do both every day. She’s a 10-month-old puppy with a lot of energy.
Yeah. And then for eating I as I do follow my fitness pal because I find it helps me to understand the macros of what I’m eating, how much protein, carbs, fats, salt, and then how many calories. Right. And it helps me track my exercise and my water, but not in a fanatic kind of way, just like, oh, this is interesting. Look what I have, you know, and I put my meals in before I eat them.
So I know I know what I’m doing. And then emotionally, I work with a therapist. I call her my therapist mentor. And she helped me to resolve, you know, my eating disorder orders.
And then and now we just continue to look at different parts of myself that maybe need some alignment and healing. And then mentally, I’m always listening to some podcast or some course because I feel it’s just I love it. I love it. I just I do it on my walks. So I’m like talking to myself, oh, my God, that’s so true. That’s so funny. And I’m like, well, whatever comes that crazy lady with her dog.
Right. But I’m constantly learning and I think that that’s really important. Never give that up, you know, no matter what’s going on, you. So for me, it’s a half hour a day on the on my education.
Catherine Wilde
Oh, that’s beautiful.
I love that perspective. And is there anything else that you want to share?
Robin Clare
I have a 30-minute free consultation with me. If people go to my website and we could talk about anything, I just want to be of service and we may talk about how I can help them going forward. But it’s really not about that. It’s about what’s going on.
And maybe I could add some quick advice for them. And so my website is clare-ity.com. It was a play on my name in the words. And on Instagram @clareity and on Facebook Clarity with Robin.
Catherine Wilde
Thank you so much for taking the time to share all your wisdom and your journey today.
Robin Clare
Catherine, thank you. It’s been lovely and I, I could just really feel your audience.
I could feel like that, that it was nice to talk to all of these women and really, truly eating disorders, there are so many millions of women just even in the United States that struggle with this. And hopefully, if I’ve given them any advice that can help them, I feel totally blessed.
Catherine Wilde
Thank you so much.
Thanks for joining me, Mama. I’m over here giving you a big virtual hug. I love spending this time with you. You are amazing for showing up and carving out this space to nourish your soul.
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